15th August 2021 - 19:11 | London, Nw London
I’m in my 30s and I’ve never had any gay friends. I tried a gay club a few times to make friends, but it didn’t go well. The men were very rude, superficial, judgemental; not friendly at all. In a practically all white environment, I could feel the racism. I was ignored or seen as a sex object by those that approached me asking for sex (which of course, I refused). I haven’t been to a gay venue since 2016 due to my experience, but if I ever do again, it will be somewhere more diverse where I can meet other Black, Asian, Arab or men of other ethnic backgrounds too, but that’s a big if as I’m very unlikely to ever venture into the gay world again. I would rather just rely on the TV and the Internet for anything gay related. It may be in my best interest to at least try again and see how it goes.
I hooked-up with several men on Craigslist; mostly older bi-curious, straight and married men, which I prefer as they are respectful, kind, open-minded and willing to please me, unlike the gay ones I met... I attempted to find friends (not necessarily gay friends) via the strictly platonic section... I only met desperate gay men; I delt with lustful looks, sexual questions and advances, invites to their place etc. I’m a big, tall, strong (quite muscular) black male. I am not a piece of meat. I don’t offer any black gay porn fantasies e.g. Interracial BBC, Blacks On Boys/On Blondes etc. I’m not one of these guys you can take home and do what you like with. I decide who I sleep with. If I don’t find you attractive, I don’t like your energy or you’re pushy and desperate etc, I won’t have sex with you.
I’m seeking male friends that are comfortable talking about gay related things; preferably straight-closeted, bi-curious males. I don’t advertise my sexuality. Nobody knows my business unless I tell them so I would feel more comfortable with men in my position. My main focus is friendship, but I won’t completely rule out anything else. I like extremely tall, larger and heavier men with huge feet. If there’s an attraction, an understanding and we get along, we can have a discussion about it first, It won’t just happen straight away, I have boundaries, it could be a while before anything like that happens, so bear that in mind. If you’re in a similar or understanding position and would like to become friends, please respond with a little bit about yourself, your background and similar experiences.
Thanks for reading…
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